Thursday, October 14

Quotes...... love them!

Sometimes the one love you can't get over is the one love you never really had

To love someone when there is no chance of that love ever thriving, that is romance

Don't screw up the best thing that ever happened to you just because you're a little unsure about who you are

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in

I don't think of you as a crush anymore... you're more like a bad habit that I can't shake

I don't know if I like you or love you, want you or need you, all I know is I love the feeling I get when I'm near you

People say whats the point in liking someone who doesn't like you back. They are right, there isn't a point. But you can't help who you like, it's not up to you. Your heart kinda just decides for you and there is no turning back once your heart makes up its mind

The most important things are the hardest things to say. They are the things you get ashamed of because words diminish your feelings - words shrink things that seem timeless when they are in your head to no more than living size when they are brought out

I want to be the girl who makes your bad days better, and the one that makes you say "my life has changed since I met her"

You might just think of me as some girl... but I just want you to know, that I'm the one girl who took one look at you, and fell harder than I ever have in my entire life

It hurts to realize that them people you thought you'd love for life don't love you as much as you thought they did and can do without you as if they never knew you at all

Ever notice that the people who hurt you the most are the ones you tend to love more?

The truth is no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes for it to heal, you won't get through it without your friends

Tuesday, October 5

The happiest things 3

My movie franchise is turning out to be pretty successful :) I thought I'd add a few things more to my 'happy' list-

26) Smileys

27) Praise

28) Being in a library

29) Having someone you haven't met knowing your name

30) Feeling like a kid again

31) Being comfortable in your own skin

32) India!

33) Being exhausted and still struggling on because you must

34) Silence

35) Rereading what you've written and finding out you weren't that terrible a writer you thought you were

Thursday, September 30

Applying psychology :)

Our mind is such an amazing phenomenon. There's just so much potential in the subconscious and unconscious mind, and one needn't know more than the most rudimentary psychology-which basically means being a little acquainted with yourself and your thoughts-to see the amazing effects of it.

We pick up literally thousands of stimuli everyday. A chance word, one little thing can really impact us deeply without us being directly aware of it. This is subliminal perception, and it's mostly used by advertisers to plant a need in our mind for their product which we can completely do without and would never have even dreamed of getting till the advertisers stepped in with their manipulative tactics.

Subliminal perception can be pretty strong, as illustrated by this example in my textbook: During a movie, the words 'Drink coke' were flashed on the screen for a time span of less than one-sixteenth of a second. That time span, as people might know, is too little for our eyes to register it, but apparently the subconscious brain, being dashed observant, registered the message as it was flashed on screen. Results showed that the number of people who bought coke or popcorn during that movie did, in fact, go up.

Unfortunately, my textbook also dashed the excitement at the implications of this message by saying that the results have yet to be proved conclusively and that subliminal perception, though important, need not necessarily work on everyone or produce a substantial change.

Yet, the effects of it can be seen everyday. We hardly remember the scenes we see everyday as we go to work, college or school, or more accurately, we see them without noticing them in any way, yet those details would be registered somewhere in our brain. Many times, we seem to know so many things without remembering exactly where we've read them. It's a natural function of brain, designed to help us survive in the environment.

I've noticed that when I write, my writing style is often very strongly influenced by the recent author I've read. That happens when I speak as well. When I analyse my writing, I can see where the influence of P.G. Wodehouse, or L.M. Montgomery, or someone else I've just happened to read steps in. Some writers have distinctive writing styles, some have wonderfully strong stories, some introduce extremely memorable characters, some new ideas or thoughts: most good writers have a combination of these. Each book is different, and each author. Some books can affect you powerfully-they can almost literally change your life; some books you would have read a million times until you have a piece that looks like something the cat brought in: yet you wouldn't give the copy away for a new one because it holds so many memories- that's why I hope Kindle will never catch on because you buy a book not so much for the story, as for the whole experience of reading and re-reading it and fingering it, and who can forget that wonderful old book smell?

I've almost given up naming my posts because I seem to always move away from the topic at hand, and then I've to label it 'random' again. But getting back to the topic I started with- it's obvious we're influenced by our environment to a great degree. But it's also true that our environment is what we think of it-so our world and all the people and every single perception we have is not the truth, but only our interpretation of everything. So if we can change our interpretation, then we change our world completely. Notice, 'the' world at large will probably be the same, but 'our' world, which is almost the same, but not quite, can be changed. And in real terms, it's almost like the whole world has been changed anyway.

Subliminal perception exists, of course, but it doesn't mean that we are influenced against our will by it, though the coke example is rather scary when you come to think of it. Brain-washing is a very real possibility, but the only way to counter it is to keep your mind open always to new ideas. It doesn't mean accepting everything you're told, but to trust your instinct on what's right and what's not.

I wrote this quote once and stuck it on my cupboard wall, and I've found it a help when I'm confused: 'If anything makes you feel bad, it's the wrong thing to do. Trust your instinct'

As a corollary: 'If anything makes you feel good, really absolutely good(and you'll know when this happens), it's the right thing to do'
If you have the least doubt about something, it's better not to do it, or at least, change it or your attitude till it feels right. Doing something while thinking it's wrong is probaby the worst thing you can ever do.

All right, the budding humanitarian signs off!








Wednesday, September 29

Do or die!

I'm back to what I do best- making lists. This time, it's 25 things I want to do before I die. Again, this can be potentially expanded to more:

1) Write a novel

2) Update my blog regularly :)

3) Go on a world tour

4) Learn to play some sport properly

5) Get my own library with all my favourite books in

6) Work in an NGO

7) Go on a camping trip in the wild

8) Do one new thing everyday

9) Sing with my ipod as though no one's listening

10) Dance as though no one's watching ;)

11) Beam a bright smile so wide it almost cracks my jaw every morning I get up

12) Buy a typewriter

13) Get a camera and carry it around with me wherever I go

14) STOP THINKING obsessively about everything

15) Get rid of clutter

Will continue the rest later. My sister is miffed for some reason at me and I've to go and sort it out. In a while :)


Wednesday, September 8

Badminton-an expounding

I love playing badminton. Is there some saying about how we love to do those things best we're hopelessly awful at? I have a sneaking suspicion I am really terrible at badminton though my coach doesn't say anything about it beyond some vague mention of practice, and my fellow students are completely expressionless when I play. Well, some of the boys laugh, or at least look as though they would snigger at any moment, but they're just kids, aren't they? They don't really matter :)

I tried playing with my sister after I decided I needed the practice and she decided she needed the exercise. I certainly gave her a lot of exercise, whatever else happened. My sister said I played pathetically, and I was surprised. I knew I wasn't very good yet, but I thought I was rather tolerable.

"Didn't I play better than you? Surely I did. Look at those high shots! Aren't they wonderful?", I asked in a bewildered, yet hopeful tone.

My sister's only response was an incredulous look that would put any doubting Thomas to shame. I could practically see her brain going "This is clearly the worst case of egoism and wilful ignorance of one's own faults I've ever seen" She always thought I was rather conceited-she was completely mistaken of course, I need not fail to add-but this seemed to be too much even for her.

So that's why I have a sneaking suspicion I'm not that good at the game. Yet, I shall march on bravely, my head held high and my confidence unshaken. Wish me luck!


Vampires Suck.............NOT!

I just saw this trailer for Vampires Suck. It's hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait to watch the movie. Spoofs are generally a lot of fun if you've seen the original and you know the scenes pretty well.





Friday, September 3

I haven't written all through august

My list of posts is like some kind of decreasing arithmetic progression. In June, there were eight, then only three in July, and none at all in August. Ok, it isn't exactly an A.P. since the difference isn't the same, but that's the general idea.

Talking of maths, there was this really wonderful maths book I read recently( that is, two months ago :)) It's called 'A Certain Ambiguity' and it's written by two Indians(I forget their names unfortunately). It's a relief to find a book written by Indians that I actually feel like reading again. The only other book by an Indian author I read which I really liked was 'The TamBrahm Bride' by Kaushalya Saptarishi.

TBB is a light-hearted read, and I think will be really taken to by all Tamil Brahmins out there, as well as everyone else. ACA is for anyone who has an interest in maths, or philosophy, or both. It's not highbrow in the least, and very, very interesting. I couldn't study for my exam properly because I was so absorbed in reading it.

My sister is reading 'The Interpretation of Murder' and I want to read it because it's connected very greatly with the subject I'm studying, psychology. But she says it's rather disgusting, and I think I can believe her because Freud was known to have researched the darkest part of the human mind. I don't really want to know in any detail the horrible crimes humans can get up to, or anything about the darker side of human nature, so I'm just going to get along with 'normal' psychology. I'll have enough to deal with anyway next year when I do 'abnormal psychology'. It'll probably be interesting, but kind of creepy too, studying criminal minds. Well, when it comes, let's see.